This week I thought I’d share some of my favourite sexy-time tips. They’re things I've discovered in my Tantra/conscious-sexuality adventures and may be a little different to the standard Cosmo/internet videos. Thankfully. I’ve tried and tested all of the practices and am sharing my top-scoring faves ;) Lots to share, so I’ve made it into a series.
Oo, and remember, these tips are ideas for possibility, not cookie-cutters on how to have sex. You are the sex god, so follow your body. These are just ideas to get you (and your partner) more into flow and experiencing more pleasure, play, connection, sexy bliss.
Here they are:
This is about doing stuff you actually want to do, at the speed, time,
Authenticity for your partner matters too! Whether it's BJs, flirting, dinner, kissing, butt stuff, check in with yourself and your partner to make sure it’s authentically working for both of you.
Yes, this all may require a bit of communication.
See this previous video post about
And how do you know if you're authentically enjoying yourself? You'll know if your head, heart, body and spirit are saying FUCK YES! If they're not, ask
2. Coconut oil.
Holy shit, it's amazing. You can put it everywhere: mouth, pussy, hair, eyes (if that happens, accidentally), cock, everywhere. It’s like full-body lube. So much better than having a left-over sticky hand. Coconut oil is also super good for you. Nourishing, antibacterial, natural. See it's million other uses here. Love it.
Caveat: use non-latex condoms with coconut oil. Oil degrades latex, so make sure you've got the right equipment.
Buy coconut oil (and non-latex condoms). You can get it from the supermarket! Organic, virgin is best. Get non-latex condoms from the pharmacy. Coconut oil is hard when it’s cold and liquefies when warm. Get
3. Massage around the groin.
For females, our erectile tissue fans out beyond our clit and vagina: there are loads of nerve endings in the groin and sides of genitals. It’s also a very sensitive area for males and is often overlooked. Stimulating surrounding areas means more blood flow to the genitals and therefore more sensation (and pleasure!). This means more orgasmic potential! For the best vulva/vagina play, hand jobs, oral
Giver: Warm up coconut oil in your hands and massage your partner’s inner thighs, bum, hips. Move into the pits of the groin (the dips where your inner thighs meet your genitals—see pic below). Start with
Also, ask your partner what feels good! Do that.
Receiver: breath, relax and feel the sensations. Let yourself feel pleasure. Forget
Ok, stay tuned for more (I’m a tease, I know, hehe).
With love + coconut,